Gigolo or male escort?
The definition of the term Gigolo is that of "young man who is kept by a woman generally older than him, in exchange for lending her company or having sexual relations with her." That is, so to speak, the classic definition.
In studies carried out among male sex workers in the cities of Bogotá and Medellín, it was possible to establish that a very high percentage of this population are homosexual or bisexual, which marks the direction in which their prostitution services will point. The term Gigolo, of Italian origin, is reserved for men who sell their sexual favors only to women, which represents barely 30% of the total male prostitution market in Colombia. The other 70% is made up of prepaid men serving customers of the same sex.
When we compare the traditional concept of the Gigolo with that of the current male prepaid, we notice that both agree that they are young people with enough attractiveness and physical attributes to arouse the sexual interest of their potential lovers or clients. In addition, the sex worker does not limit his field of work to the female sector, but is open, either for his own pleasure or for economic interest, to share his masculine sexuality with other men.
As a consequence of the egalitarian struggles that women have waged since the middle of the 20th century, today women feel they have the right and enough freedom to look for paid sex without this meaning or implying a detriment to their dignity or their love. own self. In general, they are mature women, in many cases married, with enough financial comfort to pay for an occasional adventure or keep a more or less stable lover by their side.
As women are more complex than men in their sexual tastes and appetites, they will seek not only youth, attractiveness and physical attributes in the prepaid man, but also aspire to find in them a good dose of gallantry and kindness that will also feed his self-esteem.
In Latin America, and of course in Colombia, male prostitution is practically invisible, even though many of its actors advertise on internet pages or social networks. Despite many efforts and attempts, it has been very difficult to take a census of them and generate statistics on their activity.
As in other countries, in Colombia there has been a significant activity of male prostitution, which has been legal since 2010 according to our laws, but without having achieved regularization of the activity to date, largely because the workers Sex workers of this genre work clandestinely, especially in cities like Bogotá and Medellín, two of the places most sought after by sex workers of both sexes. In Medellin, for example, male prostitution has been developing strongly since the end of the last century, encouraged by some homosexual or bisexual capos of the city's drug cartel, such as Mario Alberto Castaño Molina (alias el Chopo) and Carlos Leder. Helmer "Pacho" Herrera did his thing in the city of Cali. Today the population of prepaid men in these cities has been significantly increased with the incorporation of Venezuelan immigrants.
Information and Communications Technologies (ICTs) have given male prepaid workers the possibility of abandoning squares and other places of tolerance to offer their services through the Internet, thus achieving a safer way of working and potentially with greater scope. Anonymity is still an option, but not a rule: many prepaid people show their bodies, genitals and faces on the internet without the slightest hesitation. However, in recent years, the city of Medellin has become what they call "An open-air brothel", as both women and prepaid men have returned to its streets to take the paths of Parque Lleras or the corners of the Calle 10, places where a kind of sex tourism has been developing in which foreigners seek pleasure in exchange for dollars.
Both in Bogotá, Medellín and other Colombian cities, male escorts exercise their trade assuming risks such as sexually transmitted diseases, very precarious working conditions (when they work for agencies or brothels), social discrimination and lack of attention in the public health system.
The rates of these young Colombian sex professionals depend on many factors. Undoubtedly, youth and physical attractiveness are fundamental, but so will be the place or platform from which they promote themselves and find their clients. Having a good level of education is not necessary, but it will open many doors and could facilitate access to clients with a better economic status. Some young people say that during their sexual Hours or weekends, obviously not everything is reduced to sex, but there are long periods of conversation in which the cultural level of the prepaid man will play against him or for him.
In Colombia there is a whole caste of escorts that goes from the lowest, with less attractive or no longer so young boys, to the top made up of an elite of young models or aspiring TV actors, with athletic bodies and portentous members. who charge millionaire fees for their services. High-level politicians, prosperous businessmen or members of the mafia or drug cartels are some of the regular clients of this select group.
But despite the boom that this male activity has been taking in recent years, it should be noted that it is much less visible and protected than female prostitution, which has achieved higher levels of organization and attention. This is due, among other things, to the fact that male sex workers are not considered members of a vulnerable community due to the physical equality that is established between the pleasure provider and his client. On the other hand, the male escort does not suffer from the same social rejection that the woman suffers, a rejection that is perfectly manifested with the offensive and denigrating word WHORE, a denomination that does not have its exact equivalent for men.
In short, male prostitution is a booming trade, although it is difficult to keep censuses and statistics on this population. Many male prepaid advertise freely on platforms such as Twitter, Instagram or Telegram, although some of them opt for word-of-mouth advertising, which is why they go to great lengths to provide maximum satisfaction to their customers, Try men or women. Discretion and solo work seem to be the pattern that governs this adult entertainment activity.